The previous post merits a sequel, packed with as much piss and vinegar as the original. Like many final installments, Part II packs little punch. Much to my relief there is nothing eventful to report.
There was no crying, no charred remains destined for the dinner table, no broken plates, and arguments …There was a telephone discussion the evening before Mister Hombre returned. We talked about preparations, traffic, and last minute errands. The Mister sheepishly apologized. I asked if things would be handled differently next time. After he assured me it would be, I accepted his apology and dropped the matter.
The hardest part in accepting an apology is not reliving the moment that brought you to the confrontation. Accepting remorse and walking away from the moment requires utter forgiveness or complete restraint. I’ll leave it up to you to decide which coping mechanism should go to my credit.
Next year is supposed to different. If it isn’t, you’ll hear from me.
A few tidbits from the holiday celebrations:
- I spent more time than I care to in the kitchen. I was not alone. The Mister assisted.
- Baby Girl picked up the One Eyes and delivered them to our house. She was half an hour late. She is rarely on time. To her credit, she was late enough to allow me enough time to mix a pitcher of mojitos which I stashed in the laundry room.
- The One Eyes seemed happy about visiting. They were in good spirits and did not complain as much as they usually do. Sadly, they were not as alert or as sharp as they are on their good days.
- Mister Hombre brought trays of sweets to the One Eyes before dinner. For all practical purposes, they were in sugar comas before the evenings pork loin was removed from the grill.
- We met with my family the day following Christmas. The Mister commented spending time with my family was more fun than spending time with his. I responded, spending time with my family was much like attending a fraternity party without the alcohol. It’s an unrefined, rambunctious affair.
- As of December 26th, I own four obnoxious Christmas mugs, three pounds of french roast coffee, a snazzy wristwatch, and fifty rubber ducks (yes, really)
I hope the holidays have been kind to you and yours, and may peace keep you company throughout the new year.
To see this year’s Christmas card, click here
January 1st, 2008 at 12:27 am
photos of the mugs, please!!
January 1st, 2008 at 12:14 pm
so does this mean you are inviting everyone over for coffee?
January 1st, 2008 at 4:30 pm
The hell with the mugs! Photos of the ducks!
Happy New Year my friend!
January 1st, 2008 at 7:44 pm
ummm….i did not get a christmas card. feh.
so glad that you were able to put the old folks in sugar comas. helps when you need to sneak some drinks.
January 1st, 2008 at 7:55 pm
Umm, yeah, I didn’t get a card, either {pout}
That’s ok tho, I never send any back…
I agree, maybe we all need to come over for some cafe con bailey’s?
January 1st, 2008 at 8:15 pm
Hey, I actually think what you went through was worse than our previous ordeals. But you gotta love family don’t ya? They just know how to make your life, well full of challenges. That apology would not have been as acceptible if he hadn’t done such a good job being helpful. Good on the Mr and you for letting it go. I admire your ability for that.
Btw, I liked your fantasy Christmas menu better too. Happy New Year!
January 2nd, 2008 at 1:54 am
Okay, that didn’t sound so bad.
And out of curiosity, does your husband read your blog? I love how honest you are. Wondering if he cares? I ask because while I’m honest in what I talk about, there’s this other 90% of my life I don’t talk about for reasons like 1) Mom reads 2) Some of Rex’s work people have found it 3) In-laws read….
Let me know. Either I’m smart or a total pussy.
The real answer? Start a new one and only let certain people read for feedback.
Okay, now that I’ve rambled on and on about me… I hope you have a Happy New Year! Glad Xmas went okay for ya. Great post as usual!
January 2nd, 2008 at 8:44 pm
You survived Christmas! Just think you have 12 months before you have to do it all again.
Belated Happy New Year!
January 2nd, 2008 at 10:06 pm
flutter, I’ll have to post them next year. As of the 27th, they were safely confined to storage with the other holiday bling.
jen, of course I’m inviting everyone for coffee (or tea, or corona…), cookies, oh and those little fancy sandwiches (well maybe not those).
meno, the cat will honor your request.
liv, I need your new address. I forgot to mention the Mister didn’t hide all the wine from his parents. He left a few bottles out. Of course, they didn’t notice, but he felt utterly gratified.
qt, see comment to liv. Baily’s? Sure, maybe even sans coffee.
Maggie, we probably shouldn’t turn it into a contest neither of us wants to win
. The Mister IS a good guy, otherwise I wouldn’t be with him. One thing I’m learning from marriage is the importance of apologies.
mama P, my husband knows about it, and agreed not to read it. To date he has respected my wishes, and I trust him to keep his word. When I planned on starting the Litterpan, I didn’t anticipate I would need it for an emotional compost pile. Had I known, I wouldn’t have told him about it. Most of my family know about my other blog, but not this one, so I don’t censor myself here. Happy New Year to you too!
Diane Mandy, hopefully it will be twelve long months. Happy Holidays!
January 2nd, 2008 at 10:13 pm
I am sure your husband will respect your wishes. I, like you, didn’t expect my blogging would be an “emotional compost pile”. Great analogy. But, now that so much has happened in my life - example: My son’s Tourette’s diagnosis as of yesterday, I wish I could share my thoughts more freely than I feel comfortable with on my current site. But… I get it out in comments. And with friends. And private email exchanges. I just love that yours is in one place.
That’s all. Thanks for listening.
January 3rd, 2008 at 1:23 am
Yeah for you…you seem to have survived Christmas and still managed to maintain your sanity! Isn’t family wonderful…cough, cough. Now…about those 50 rubber ducks…
January 3rd, 2008 at 3:45 pm
It sounds like a Christmas trip will be in order for next year, to go along with your Thanksgiving trip…maybe another trip to Munich???
January 6th, 2008 at 11:30 pm
mama p, you have many challenges ahead of you. He is only five, so there is an opportunity to make a difference while he is still young and impressionable. He’s lucky to have attentive parents like you and Rex. Many kids who need assistance go undiagnosed or missed diagnosed.
If you need a place to let it all all hang out, I encourage you to start a second blog and email the location to those whose opinions you desire most. For the second blog, create a separate identity, and don’t link from your other blog to your private blog, if you wish to maintain your privacy.
Joan, and I managed to keep my good help too!
Lynn, if it were all about me a trip would be in order, but *sigh* I’ll have to wait and see how things go.
January 9th, 2008 at 1:29 pm
So you really did get the ducks as a present? I thought that was a joke. When did rubber ducks get so cute?
You’re one of the most creative people I’ve ever known. Your Christmas card is very cool. Here’s to hoping next Christmas runs smoothly. Planning for the holidays is a huge headache.